"There’s a Difference Between Having Goals and Being Consumed by Everything You’re Not"

Ashley Thomas
Jul 22, 2025
2 min read

Updated: Jul 30, 2025

Living On-Purpose, Not in Pieces

A woman sits with her eyes closed and fingers pressed together, embodying a moment of stress and contemplation.

Have you ever felt that the more you strive, hustle, and fix yourself, the closer you'll get to fulfillment. You set goals. You chase success. You tick boxes. And still—you feel disconnected, restless, or worse, like you’re not enough. Why?

"There's a profound difference between having goals and being consumed by everything you’re not."

The Problem Isn’t Ambition—It’s Misalignment

Goals are powerful tools. They give us direction, motivation, and milestones. But when our goals are rooted in insecurity or comparison; when they’re attempts to fix, prove, or earn our worth...they become distractions from who we really are. Instead of moving toward something meaningful, we become consumed by who we think we should be. We chase roles, titles, and metrics that don’t belong to us. And somewhere along the way, we lose the sound of our own voice.

This is where purpose steps in.

Purpose is the Foundation—Confidence is the Fuel

Here is the irony...you already hold the seeds of your purpose within you. You’re not broken. You don’t need fixing. You need space to uncover and remember who you are.

My role as a coach isn’t to hand you a roadmap or tell you who to be. It’s to walk beside you while you uncover your deepest values, connect to your unique calling, and begin to live it—confidently and unapologetically.

When you’re living on-purpose, your goals shift. They no longer emerge from lack or comparison. They’re rooted in clarity and conviction. You move from proving to embodying. From hustling to aligning. That’s the power of living on-purpose.

What Coaching Looks Like in Practice

Through our work together, we:

Explore who you are beyond roles, expectations, and shoulds.
Identify limiting beliefs that have kept you stuck in cycles of self-doubt.
Clarify your purpose—not a job title, but a deeper sense of "why" that drives everything you do.
Build a confident voice that doesn't apologize for its power.
Create goals that feel like a natural extension of who you are—not a mask to wear.